Warning signs of an abusive dating relationship:
-Extreme jealousy or insecurity Constant put-downs
-Possessiveness or acting like they own you
-Telling you what to do Explosive temper
-Making false accusations Isolating you from your friends and family Preventing you from doing things you want to do
Types of Abuse (Break the Cycle)
Terms of "Abuse"
Someone who is present at, or witness to, an event without participating in it. It's
our opinion that there are no "innocent bystanders." When harm is being done to another person, bystanders are the ones who
have the power to help.
A significant other. A boyfriend or a girlfriend.
who hurts, degrades, controls, injures, and/or mistreats others.
Victim or survivor:
Someone who is harmed,
or who has been harmed.
Dating violence is characterized by patterns of abuse. This doesn't
necessarily mean it has to be physical abuse; in fact, there are other types of abuse that can create an unhealthy and violent
relationship. When anyone intentionally attacks you sexually, physically, or psychologically, you are in an abusive relationship.
Abuse happens to girlfriends and boyfriends, in both gay and straight relationships. It's never okay for someone to be abused
by another person. Don't ever forget that violence is never the victim's fault. And it is ALWAYS wrong. The following are
definitions of different kinds of abuse.
Physical force or violent behavior used to maintain
control over a person, injure or frighten a person, or to get what one wants. Examples include pushing, shoving, slapping,
hitting, kicking, pinching, throwing, or using weapons to inflict harm. The threat of physical violence can also be considered
Words used to intentionally hurt, frighten, or threaten another person; often the first
stage of abuse in a violent dating relationship.
Any unwanted behaviors or actions that are
sexual in nature. Forced sex, deliberate embarrassment during sex, sexual names, manipulation into having sex, physical threats
to pressure someone into sex, or drug/alcohol use to impair someone’s judgment, are all examples of sexual abuse.
Any unwanted sexual pressure, verbal, visual, or physical in nature. Sexual harassment includes spreading
sexual rumors, rude gestures or noises, inappropriate touching or rubbing, and offensive comments about someone's clothes
Words used to minimize someone’s feelings and put him/her down. Emotional
abuse disregards the victim’s feelings, and instead instills beliefs of not being important or good enough. If your
boyfriend/girlfriend makes you feel guilty, insecure, or afraid, it's disrespectful and unhealthy.
Ridicule or persecution based on spiritual beliefs. Examples can include forcing someone to stop practicing religion or
changing his/her religion.
When someone controls your financial decisions and behaviors
without your consent, it is considered financial abuse. Examples include forcing someone to work or not work, taking someone
a paycheck, or expecting unrealistic gifts.
Date rape can be defined as being subjected to unwanted
sexual intercourse, oral sex, anal sex, or other sexual contact through the use of force or threat of force. There can be
male or female victims of rape, although most reported cases of rape are against young women. Date rape is most often done
by someone the victim knows, in a situation familiar to them (i.e., a friend’s house, their house, etc.).
WARNING SIGNS (Easy to read)